You're not alone in this, a lot of people are trying to keep their transactions as private as possible. There are still some decentralized platforms that don’t enforce KYC. For what you need, I'd recommend checking out
https://cryptoswapnokyc.com/crypto-currency/usdt-xmr/, which allows direct swaps between USDT and Monero without requiring any identity verification. I’ve used it a few times and the interface is pretty straightforward. The process is quick, and you retain full control over your wallet throughout. Just make sure you double-check the receiving address and use the recommended network for USDT to avoid errors. Also, it's smart to start with a small amount just to test the system first before committing to a bigger transaction.