It is a little true. Although I am one of the most extraverts in our school (people who love crowds), I am very...very shy when it comes to girls. There is this one girl who I would love to ask out, but I choke. Although I didnt need to ask her out because she asked me to a baseball game and a movie, in a row! That was a true miracle

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Yeah, but part of that is fear of rejection. The giggling people around the person you like is probably the best deterant for guys, at least at school, when they are just starting off dating. Feeling stupid is one of a guys main considerations, and something he thinks over lots before acting. Sort of like a risk/reward ratio [I should know, I've never gone beyond thinking. I've never considered actually acting, because in my view it isn't worth it. Enter two of my main faults; Pride, and Cowardice. I'm too proud to suffer the dent to my dignity should things go to hell in a handcart (Excuse that turn of phrase) And too much of a coward to act anyway... ]
And as Telpeath says, lots of guys want to look cool, at least at the start of their learning process. I guess that as guys mature that doesn't matter quite so much.

Well, in a way, it still does. I am 16 years old at the moment. Friends come to me for advice about dating and I know all the answers. Yet, when it comes to me dating....well...you know.

And you are right! Men do fear rejection. I know this friend who has dated about every girl on our table at lunch. Each one didnt work out. (knowing this doesnt relate.)

I just notice that I have alot of friends that are girls!

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I know this friend who has dated about every girl on our table at lunch. Each one didnt work out. (knowing this doesnt relate.)
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That reminds me of someone who asked two hundred girls out for homecoming. They all said no. The hardest part of asking a girl out is mustering the nerve and hold it.

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^ Like I said, it is no good if you have no self confidence (In my post, i referred to it as cowardice) You've got to be confident. It is tough, trying to muster the nerve, as you say Caunion.

Haha... I think some girls are more afraid of guys then we think. I know exactly what all the guys here mean. My boyfriend [according to his friends] took over a month to pluck up the courage to ask me out. When he did [of course I said yes] he nearly started crying. He was so relieved. Of course there is that possibility that you could rejected, and hopefully the girl will be respectful and kind in her rejection.

How do the guys feel about girls asking them out? [Personally I don't think it's right at all.]

I wanna join!

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Welcome, welcome FF!! We're just having a discussion on guys asking girls out.

I'm sorry, I know I'm not a member of the club but this conversation is just too tempting. I'm really you guys are taking this seriously.


I personally have nothing against asking a guy out. I'm fifteen years old and I've found that I have a "thing" as you can say for shy guys, yet funny guys. Though I've only had one boyfriend, him in which told him straight out I liked him, and then it initiate him to ask me out.

Girls don't tend to ask guys out because of fear of rejection and I'm sure guys do have the same fear but guys sometimes can be more protective of themselves. People build defensive walls to try and not get hurt.

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Wow...u guys are all so knowledgable. I will be able to tell you how it for me...once it happens...

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That is soo sweet, Larael! Your boyfriend must be really cute

I never thought about girls asking guys out, because I'm far too shy to do that .

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I asked out a guy once--i dont see anything wrong with it but thats just me, im too different for my own good.

Larael that reminds me of my most recent ex-he started likeing me when school started (september) and it took him till the end of december to ask me out. he actually liked me "at first sight" it was really cute me+him. then when he was about to ask me out in person he couldnt do it and he said he had to go home in the middle of his sentence and then he missed school the next day cuz he was too nervous then he ended up passing me a note the day after that

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Wow. People post very fast. And , FF!

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About the giggly girl stuff:
Oh, I totally know what you guys are talking about. It's just what girls do when they're nervous, I think. But it's still just immature and it makes a guy's job even harder. So I would like to say on behalf of every female; I'm very sorry. I've never been asked out or anything like that [I get the feeling I'm just too scary since I show no sign of seeking a dating relationship at the moment] so I haven't had my turn to giggle, but when that time comes, I shall do my very best to respect his bravery of asking.
I agree with Larael that I think it's right for the guy to ask the girl -- it's just [to me] the gentlemanly thing for him to do.

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