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Post subject:  Posted: October 3rd, 2006, 8:48 pm |
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You know, it is only here where I find girls that are not overly concerned with themselves. Just to make sure you look presentable is good but asking everyone that you think cares about your appearance every five minutes if they look the world's most beautiful girl in the world (And in most cases, they don't). And what Gwen says is true. Guys really can't tell you if you look beautiful or not. Either thankfully or regrettably (however you want to think of it), I have never been asked that question before but I can tell you my answer will be silence (perhaps a stony look if you ask the question one too many times). And like Gwen says, guys admire beauty (at least, I do). It's part of love. Does Chad have anything to say to guys about this? He knows an awful lot about girls so surely he must know something about guys.
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Post subject: Posted: October 4th, 2006, 3:06 pm |
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Ok, I have a question (or several) for you ladies.
If a guy came up to you and -after due ceremony (:P)- said he 'liked' you, what would you do? Would you be pleased and honoured he told you, or would you wish he had kept his mouth shut?
Also, would it make a difference to you if you had a boyfriend? And if you didn't, would you expect him to go a step further and ask you out?
Ok, I know that was a lot of questions, but this I something that is kinda topical for me at the moment, and I have been wondering about it for a while.
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Post subject: Posted: October 4th, 2006, 3:44 pm |
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Well, let me just say that this is completely my opinion, from my life experiences 
To answer your first question, I would be flattered! I know that for most guys it is really tough to get up the courage to say that, so I would be pleased. If we were on bad terms, or he had been bugging me and he knew I didn't like him, I would more than likely wish he had kept his mouth shut.
For your second question, I would think it a little rude to tell me that if I was already involved with someone. If he was just telling me, and not wishing for a relationship, then that's fine, but expecting me to leave my boyfriend is just selfish, tbh. If I didn't have a boyfriend, I would be happy either way, if he asked me out or not. Of course the expectation of our society is that two people who like each other should date, but I am not entirely of the same opinion. 
I hope that made some sense, and maybe helped 
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Post subject: Posted: October 4th, 2006, 4:08 pm |
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Yep, it made sense! And thanks for the answer. All the answers I get will be carefully filed away in a corner of my brain to help make a decision in the future.
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Post subject: Posted: October 4th, 2006, 4:09 pm |
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Joined: 24 September 2006
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Post subject: Posted: October 4th, 2006, 4:22 pm |
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I have another question. I think I know the answer to this question but do girls get annoyed when guys get persistant?
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Post subject: Posted: October 4th, 2006, 7:36 pm |
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Joined: 01 November 2005
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Location: Middle Earth
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Okay...must rant.
As Gwen pointed out earlier, there are A Guys and B Guys. But what I have also noticed is that there are A Girls and B Girls; A Girls want to please A Guys, and B Girls with this for B Guys.
Now, B Girls are the ones who might wear tighter clothes, put on make-up, and flirt a bit. A Girls are quieter, and more modest. Nautrally, being guys, most of them will see a B Girl and be attracted to her. This is not to say that they want her for selfish purposes; A Guys often treat these girls with respect and care as much as any other girl.
HOWEVER - this can be incredibly annoying for A Girls. There are many more B Girls out there than A, enough to satisfy both the A and B Guys, while a few guys don't date or juggle between girls. The A Girls, as far as in my school, are pretty much left with nada. This is very frustrating.
It seems like we are playing catch-up, always having to beat the B Girl standard. Most of us don't do it and try to forget about guys. But trust me - I am constantly bothered by the fact that I'm never getting ANY attention, and I am, in fact, usually ignored. But - blam - a girl with make-up and a tight shirt walks in, and all of the guys encircle her immediently - ost of them, remember, being A Guys. Still wanting to treat this girl with respect, they are male and thus attracted to her. Plus, it seems like it would be easier to be friends with an 'open' (aka flirty) girl like her than that boring A girl.
So what is an A girl to do? Many trade over to the 'B' side, deciding that enduring unwanted attention from B Guys is worth it to get attention from quality A Guys, too. Others - like me - sit here and rant while getting increasingly angrier. PLEASE tell me this is a high school guy thing, or I'm destined to be brokenhearted as I watch the guys around me for my entire life!!!
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Post subject: Posted: October 4th, 2006, 7:44 pm |
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Therein lies a problem, RinielAranel. In my high school, there are hardly any Girl As. They are almost like an endangered species. And you are right, Girl Bs are multiplying and yes, I will have to admit, they are a bit more eye-catching. I, too, get constantly ignored, probably because I am a Guy A and probably because I erect emotionless shields around me and I tend to get extremely sullen on first class (Orchestra, I have to tune my stupid bass while everyone is watching and I'm tone deaf! I really feel like just throwing it on the ground and get it a nice kick.). Now I'm just casting my dice into the future, something to look forward to!
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Post subject: Posted: October 4th, 2006, 11:07 pm |
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We may not seem interested, Caunion, but deep down, a girl would rather have a guy that loved her heart than her body. It's just that girls get so desperate to have a guy that they dress the way they do and all that jazz.
Darrell wrote: If a guy came up to you and -after due ceremony ()- said he 'liked' you, what would you do? Would you be pleased and honoured he told you, or would you wish he had kept his mouth shut?
Also, would it make a difference to you if you had a boyfriend? And if you didn't, would you expect him to go a step further and ask you out? In answer to your first two, I'd feel honored that he plucked up the courage to tell me. From what I've heard, it takes a lot. But I guess it also depends on the guy. I'd still think he was cool for telling me, but I guess I'd kinda wish he'd stayed quiet so I wouldn't feel bad. That's something that can't be helped by the guy, though -- you're not mind readers. Second two. It would make a big difference. "Pal, I'm already taken. I chose the guy I have right now, I'm positive he's the one I want to be with right now." If I didn't have a boyfriend, I would expect him to ask me out. In fact, I'd probably laugh if all he told me was that he liked me. Sorry, but it's the truth. What's the point in just telling someone you like them? "What else?" I'd ask. Caunion the Frost Lord wrote: You know, it is only here where I find girls that are not overly concerned with themselves. Just to make sure you look presentable is good but asking everyone that you think cares about your appearance every five minutes if they look the world's most beautiful girl in the world (And in most cases, they don't). If you talked to us in real life, I'm almost positive we'd be the average girl who cares SO much about their appearance. It's easy to act all secure in who we are when we're not talking to you face to face. Seriously, if we were having this conversation in person, I'd be doing all kinds of weird things with my hair or pulling on my shirt. Quote: And like Gwen says, guys admire beauty (at least, I do). It's part of love. Does Chad have anything to say to guys about this? He knows an awful lot about girls so surely he must know something about guys.
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Post subject: Posted: October 5th, 2006, 4:59 pm |
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ok i have another question....
the guy i like (brett) and my friend and i were talking today during math class. She said to us "I think you two are going to date this year." I didn't say anything but he said no but he said it weird it didn't sound like his voice. I'm wondering if someone said that to one of you guys and you liked that girl and she was right next to you what would you say?
sorry if that doesn't make sence i feel really shakey and nervous and just completely out of wack...
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Post subject: Posted: October 5th, 2006, 5:54 pm |
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Gwenneth wrote: Quote: And like Gwen says, guys admire beauty (at least, I do). It's part of love. Does Chad have anything to say to guys about this? He knows an awful lot about girls so surely he must know something about guys. About what, sorry? I'm not exactly sure what you mean...
Oh, about relationships with girls.[/color]_________________
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Post subject: Posted: October 5th, 2006, 8:13 pm |
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Joined: 04 June 2005
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No More Despair wrote: ok i have another question....
the guy i like (brett) and my friend and i were talking today during math class. She said to us "I think you two are going to date this year." I didn't say anything but he said no but he said it weird it didn't sound like his voice. I'm wondering if someone said that to one of you guys and you liked that girl and she was right next to you what would you say?
sorry if that doesn't make sence i feel really shakey and nervous and just completely out of wack...
when you say that he said No wierd, is it the sorta No, that actually means yes..and thats why you're confuzzled...?_________________ <center> 
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Post subject: Posted: October 5th, 2006, 10:05 pm |
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^:lol:
Sorry, it's just so funny how confuzzling the world of crushes is!
Caunion -- I can't remember anything truly specific at the moment. I mean, the whole book is centered around understanding guys: their habbits, brains, language...
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Post subject: Posted: October 6th, 2006, 1:27 pm |
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Joined: 15 March 2006
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Location: The Square! LOL!
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Hi, As you may not know, I am going on a life changing trip to Madagascar, with which I have to rasie £3, 445 and 18 months to do so. As this may tell you, I will have very little lime left, what with jobs and fund-raising, and that which I do have left, I will have to do coursework in.
Consequently, I will entrusting 5 members to make sure this club runs smoothly, has a topic, doesn't stray too far on topic, and regulate it.
Those few, I will PM and post on here tonight.
Thank-you
Scarlett Storm
P.S: It was nice to have known you guys! Thanks for making the conversation so animated!
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Post subject: Posted: October 6th, 2006, 1:39 pm |
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Okay, I have contacted these members, those who I've asked are:
Gwenneth
Caunion the Frost Lord
~RinielAranel~
Mrs Gamgree
Luthien of Lorien
I hope you understand, they just seemed the most dedicated.
Its not a big deal, I just think its a delicate topic and since I'm not going to be here...it made sense in my head!
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Is what you've seen too much to take, or are you blind and seeing nothing?
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Post subject: Posted: October 6th, 2006, 4:01 pm |
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Joined: 04 June 2005
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Location: Zeh Shire
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Gah!
I have responded, and of course.
*sigh*
Good luck SS!
Come back and share your experience whenever you can, if you dont believe me, I will be VERY angry.
no joke
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