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Post subject:  Posted: October 2nd, 2006, 1:37 pm |
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Oh, guys are funny, this guy keeps staring, and enquiring after me! I like him abck, I'm just to scared to do anything!
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I saw you look away
Is what you've seen too much to take, or are you blind and seeing nothing?
(I saw you run) I saw you run away
Is what I've done too much to take or are you scared of being nothing?
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Post subject: Posted: October 2nd, 2006, 2:02 pm |
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Well, NMD, considering what the guys just said, maybe he does and maybe he doesn't talk to him as much as you can and if he does, I'm sure he'll say soemthing, if he doesn't...well, either he doesnt like you or he's the shy kind.
SS:
Only one thing, if you dont do anything or don't talk, he might thing you don't like him! So talk as much as you can on friendly terms, and be flirty  Well...no, but talk as mucha s you can (like i said) and then..we'll see.
The thign about guys and girls brains is SO true, at least fro girls..it really can go from Jane's skirt to that movie i saw 5 weeks ago.
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Post subject: Posted: October 2nd, 2006, 2:21 pm |
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lol gwen, I think that guys analogy of how brains work is great. he is so right about guys brains being in compartments. It is much harder for us to go from one thing to something completely unconnected (in our eyes ) Some can switch compartments easier that others. I guess that the guys who switch compartments with ease understand girls thought processes better 
And I am currently pondering a question to ask you girls. Not sure how to word it yet though. And I'd like a little more info on the subject in hand irl, before I say anything
Watch this space...
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Post subject: Posted: October 2nd, 2006, 4:32 pm |
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thank you everyone! I appreciate your comments and your help! I will update you all I get to see him tommorow at school and band
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Post subject: Posted: October 2nd, 2006, 4:40 pm |
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well, i broke up with my boyfriend today. he was kiddin' around on saturday sayin' i didn't want to call him because i wanted to call my other boyfriend, naturally i got VERY mad and he just kept it up. i told him if he kept saying i had two beoyfriends i wouldn't have one much longer, he continued and i was right.
as of break today, just after first block, i am single.
my friends are already plotting who their going to hook me up with. but there's one thing that bothers me.
the only reason i feel bad is because i don't feel bad. and today the boy i broke up with was like, too sad to function properly by third block, but when i told him i don't want to go out anymore all he said was "OK."
i is confused!
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Post subject: Posted: October 2nd, 2006, 9:59 pm |
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^I don't blame you for being confused! Of course I can't be absolutely sure, but my bet is that he really is torn up about it. Not really sure why, since he wasn't treating you like you meant a lot to him. [In my opinion, you're better off without him] I think it was smart of you to break off the relationship, though maybe talking about it a little would be good.  Because your real reason wasn't that he kept verbally... "annyoing" [I know that's not the right word] you, I'm guessing. If maybe you talked to him about why you really broke up with him, he'd feel better...
And most likely he'll try and apologize and "beg your return", but you made your decision, right? Let him know that...
But gently.
Here's probably my favorite part of Chad's book: Girl A and Girl B. I'm sure the rest of you girls will be interested, and I'd love to hear your opinion, boys.
Girl A:
When a guy looks at you, he thinks most guys don't have a chance. Not because you're too beautiful or because you're mean, but because you don't seem interested in ALL boys. A guy sees you and knows it is going to take a lot of effort to develop a friendship with you. He's going to have to use his heart and head if he's going to have a chance at any type of relationship with you. When a guy makes an effort to meet you, he stares into your eyes as though he is trying to see right into your heart. He's there to help you, not harm you. He wants you to know you are really important and he wants the best for you. He compliments you for no reason at all, and he doesn't require something of you at the end of a sentence... or the evening. He looks out for you, even when you aren't looking out for yourself. A guy who spends time with you wants to make you laugh and smile. Seeing you giggle when he looks at you makes him happier than most anything. He smiply wants you to know you are wonderful, beautiful, and deserve nothing but the best, with no strings attached. And he doesn't want anything in return for this all.
Girl B:
A guy looks at you and thinks you are a mighty fine piece of meat. He thinks you look like someone that he can try some new stuff with. He knows he doesn't have to marry you in order to get you to do whatever he wants. He's determined to win you over tonight -- and by "win", he's only thinking of his own satisfaction and pleasure. He doesn't really care about meeting your needs -- especially not in the long run -- as long as you can meet his. He wants something from you, and he figures that with minimal effort you'll probably give it to him._________________ 
^Thanks Gily!
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Post subject: Posted: October 2nd, 2006, 10:07 pm |
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Ok, who is this Chad? I really want to meet him and know how he knows all of this. I'm definitely the guy in the first scenario. I doubt anyone spent as much time at night plotting and planning as much as I do. I have at least twenty "if-then" scenarios.
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Post subject: Posted: October 2nd, 2006, 10:44 pm |
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Wow Gwen... I'd love to meet this Chad guy too.
I've seen way to many guys who would fall under the 2nd scenario, which is really sad. It all goes back to the fact that women are human. We have feelings that can be hurt. Don't treat us like dirt, and don't look at us like sex icons. That's not what we are.
By the way, Scarlett asked what love is, and it seems I've got the perfect answer. I found it by looking in the Bible actually. [not trying to get religious!] And I have proceeded by writing it out and taping it on my wall. 1 Corinthians 13:4-
Quote: If I speak with the languages of men and of angels, but don't have love, I have become sounding brass, or a clanging cymbal.
If I have the gift of prophecy, and know all mysteries and all knowledge; and if I have all faith, so as to remove mountains, but don't have love, I am nothing.
If I dole out all my goods to feed the poor, and if I give my body to be burned, but don't have love, it profits me nothing.
Love is patient and is kind; love doesn't envy. Love doesn't brag, is not proud, doesn't behave itself inappropriately, doesn't seek its own way, is not provoked, takes no account of evil; doesn't rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will be done away with. Where there are various languages, they will cease. Where there is knowledge, it will be done away with.
For we know in part, and we prophesy in part; but when that which is complete has come, then that which is partial will be done away with.
When I was a child, I spoke as a child, I felt as a child, I thought as a child. Now that I have become a man, I have put away childish things.
For now we see in a mirror, dimly, but then face to face. Now I know in part, but then I will know fully, even as I was also fully known.
But now faith, hope, and love remain-these three. The greatest of these is love.
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Post subject: Posted: October 3rd, 2006, 7:50 am |
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Well, all I can tell you is that he's written the book "The Truth About Guys".
And actually, in the next paragraph he states that though girls find it hard to believe, just about every guy either falls under category A, or would like to.
Well said, Larael!  _________________
^Thanks Gily!
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Post subject: Posted: October 3rd, 2006, 8:10 am |
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Evidently his name is Chad Eastham, his book is here [christianbook.com] and here [amazon.com] (though amazon doesn't seem to know his name; you can see on the cover that he's the author _________________ <img src="http://thulcandra.com/randombanner/banner.php" title="Banner by Arwen">
I can help with HTML/CSS/JavaScript/PHP/ASP. I can't do graphics or layouts.
Post in Site Help, I'll see it. Or PM me.
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Post subject: Posted: October 3rd, 2006, 8:28 am |
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thank you so much for your help, Gwen, i'm going to talk to dear old Timmy today.
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at one point, I was alejandrah.
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Post subject: Posted: October 3rd, 2006, 11:33 am |
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Hm.............I kinda don't agree, I have to add this:
Girl C
Although shes not as popular/ more popular than you, you have to have her. Its more the mental attraction than the physical one. You know she likes you back, but you're too scared whats going to happen if you do? Is it going to ruin her cred? Your cred? Etc.. So nothing happens...
Thats what most guys fall into!
Thanks Mrs Gamgree, I'll try, but its going to be so nerve-racking!
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I saw you look away
Is what you've seen too much to take, or are you blind and seeing nothing?
(I saw you run) I saw you run away
Is what I've done too much to take or are you scared of being nothing?
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Post subject: Posted: October 3rd, 2006, 4:26 pm |
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^Hmmm, I didn't follow some of that, but interesting...
That situation is definitely one that can happen. But the guy would probably fall under Girl B. He doesn't sound as interested in her well-being as his own pleasures. *shrug*
Supposedly girls with a low self-esteem are unatractive. Like girls who ask their boyfriends, "Does this shirt make me look fat? What would you do if I died? Am I prettier than her?"
Guys don't want to be the ones to build up a girl's beauty, but admire it! [Not that they can't encourage us, etc.]
And what Chad states over and over in the book, is this:
Girls, it's up to us how guys view us. We're seen as either a target or a treasure...do you know how guys see you?
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Post subject: Posted: October 3rd, 2006, 4:31 pm |
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^Interestign to think of....I have no idea what I am....sad...hmmm....but it is true about self-esteem.
I've been told by LOADS of guys that it's just unnatractive for girls to be alll like "do you think I'm ugly?" and all thsis stuff. I hear from the males that it's great to have girls that are realy sure of themselves (in a non-conceited way)
^^You're welcome SS! 
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Post subject: Posted: October 3rd, 2006, 6:24 pm |
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Oh, to SS's question, what is love? I usually take the scientific view of it: triangular theory of love. Love is made of three things: intimacy, passion, and commitment. Now, you can have without the other two or two without the other one. It is just falls short of true love.
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Post subject: Posted: October 3rd, 2006, 7:09 pm |
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Another good point to bring up Gwen. I really do hope I'm seen as a treasure in a guys eyes. I want to be someone you can cherish and love, not someone you want for your own pleasures. There's got to be commitment from both us.
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